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"I think Jill Scott has a poodle on her head. Looks like the dog @Oprah used to have. #NAACP Image Awards." - Jawn Murray

"Jill Scott's braids are TIGHT. She's got crazy beautiful skin. She's on the end of the row. Another winner?" - Honey Magazine

GET YOUR OWN! Please and Thank you.

Ok, I haven't blogged in a while. To the few people that check these, sorry 'bout that. I will get back to it soon and very soon. However, there's something I just have to get off my chest...

it is my sincere wish and prayer for 2010 that folks will MIND THEIR OWN DAMN BUSINESS! Stop being nosy under the guise of being helpful or protective. We know that is NOT the case. We know you just don't have a life of your own, so you're fascinated by everyone else's.

I've also noticed that nosy ass people are usually the one trying to make everything about them. They pry so they can then tell everything THEY did and said. It makes them feel important (in their own minds). It normally goes like this. "So and so went to the doctor"..."Oh, well I told them they should go. And I said that it's probably ____." I, I, I, I, I...I'm getting annoyed.

When you're dealing with people...

It's best to know what you're dealing with. Honestly, it helps. I came across an article that described a good amount of the people I dealt with in 2009 and it really made an impact on me. Knowledge always helps you separate yourself from other people's mess. It also helps you realize that it's not always you. Sometimes it really is OK to give yourself a dang break!! So, read this list about the signs of emotional immaturity. You may see glimmers of "friends", bosses, boyfriends, girlfriends, exes, parents, all types of people. It'll open up your mind and change the way you interact with people...

The Ultimate Melt The Sheets Playlist...thank me later...

I figured a good way to start 2010 is to invest in my own romantic karma. So, I bring to you The Ultimate Melt The Sheets Playlist. Disclaimer: this is a grown up collection of music that sets a mood, so if you're more into songs about poppin, droppin, smackin, and lyrics about body parts, this may not be for you.

This playlist if for couples who need a little bit of spark! Life has a way of killing the love in our lives. For those of you lucky enough to still have a bit, here's my gift to you! This is about snesuality, connection and intimacy without all of the obvious selections. I've added a little audio to give you an idea where it's going. So, open your mind, do a little leg work (BUY the music...if you can find it) and let me know how you like it!!

Sell it baby! My favorite vids of the moment...

It doesn't take a huge budget to make a great video. It doesn't take a stylist to have a great look (but it helps). It does take a vision though, because with a budget, stylist and all the resources imaginable, you're video can still SUCK without vision. But these people got it right! My favorite vids of the moment...

The Dead Weather - Cut Like A Buffalo



Eric Roberson feat. Lalah Hathaway - Dealing


From a style standpoint alone, this is probably the best vid playing right now! But, what I really love about this song is that is is classic Mary. It sounds like she found her way back to being Mary, which is why we love her...
Mary J Blige - I Am


Another style pick is The Gossip - Heavy Cross. Aside from the fact that the video looks great, wailing ass Beth Ditto can really do no wrong to me...



Yet another person from Idol that should NOT have won...Allison Iraheta. The song and the video are a great first outing for her. She looks great and looks her age. Hey, while everyone else is slinking around half nekkid, these teenage girls need someone to look up to that looks, acts and talks big shit like them! Get it girl!
Alison Iraheta - Friday I'll Be Over You

You bought what????

Ok, so I've seen tons of crazy products surface lately. It's become big business to sell things on TV to middle America and watch the cash roll in. Most of these products cost little to nothing to produce, but when combined with kitschy marketing they become big sensations. Even when we laugh at the commercials, some of us will still buy it. Hellooooo Snuggie! Still, there are somethings I just can NOT believe are real, but they are. Here's couple of my favorite crazy, sure to make money, ideas!

THE RACKTRAP!: The name alone is just wrong. And the ad tells you to "ditch your purse" but my bag is always huge and full. I know my boobs are big, but they ain't that big! LOL Oh, and if you go to the website www.theracktrap.com, you can take a look at the instructions (complete with video) that starts with "locate your breast" and instructs you to place this little thing "between your cup and your breast". Um, ooooookay...


Here's one of my personal favorites BOOTY POP! No explanation needed...

I mean really, who is wearing this mess?!?!?! LOL

If you've seen the commercial, you know this thing basically pours warm water through one nostril and out the other. I know that there are legit medical treatment that do the same. But, really...do you want to buy this from a TV commercial?


This could really go on forever...there are some really strange things out there. But I just thought I'd share the laughs...

Just a general rule...RUN when you see the word "whimsical"! LMAO And it's a best seller...

The New (and much improved) VIBE Magazine...

I have been reading Vibe since the first issue. It was a Christmas gift from my mother. Followed by a gift a few Christmases ago of the Vibe Photography coffee table book. I grew up on Vibe and felt too cool when I found out that along the way one of their Editor-in-Chiefs was the granddaughter of my grandfather's ex wife. When she wrote her first novel, More Like Wrestling, he got a copy and passed around the family for all of us to read. It's still one of my favorite books.

When she was brought back on as the EIC, I was excited. I was holding out hope that the magazine would go back to it's original quality and originality. And I think she made great improvements. She also made the round on TV, which was a great move. In the years between her first stint at Vibe and her second, TV clip shows and appearance on news networks for big entertainment stories had become part of the cultures landscape. She was great at that.

But, yesterday, I cam across the NEW Vibe Magazine (pictured above). I flipped through it and was really impressed. The look of the magazine has grown up, the feel of the ads was really edgy and made a big impact and the articles were fantastic. The staff is really working hard to revamp the entire brand. From the article on Shakir Stewart's suicide to, yes, the Chris Brown interview and the Amber Rose fashion layout I was really impressed. Kudos to them for bringing back and institution bigger and better!

Here's a preview of Amber Rose giving it ALL for Vibe!