What you really really want...

Hey folks,

I've been having the same conversation with most of my friends. They're all frustrated with the opposite sex. Seriously, everyone is FRUSTRATED! So, it got me thinking. We can all tell you what we don't want. For me it's self centered guys (not men, guys), men that run hot and cold and immaturity. I want someone who's confident and comfortable in his skin, someone who knows who they are and doesn't make everything about him. Simple right? It should be, but it isn't.

Here's the issue. Can most people honestly tell you what they really REALLY want? Do they even know? Even my attached and married friends are finding out that they have lots of things in their relationship they don't necessarily want. They've grown and they've changed. But their relationship, and the person they are in the relationship with, has not.

It's even apparent in people's friendships, careers and lifestyles. We've got long lists of what we don't want, purely based on our negative experiences. But what do we want? I think shifting the focus from what we're running from to what we should be chasing will help us get to a better place. We'll no longer feel like our energy is wasted because it's getting us closer to being happy. How many of us put more energy into making other people happy than we do into being happy ourselves? Don't we put tons of energy into blocking the things and people we think will hurt us? I know did! Now I don't. Now, I have something to show for my energy, work and emotion. I'm no longer throwing it away on people who couldn't care less or on situations that are beyond my control. Come on, it's a much more peaceful life when you're concentrating on finding happiness rather than on avoiding misery.

So, I pose this question to the few people that stop by my blog...WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?